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Marlene Said:

Is it wrong for me to have these radical life plans?

We Answered:

Hi Spencer..

The secret in how to be more assertive is judging when to assert yourself and having the confidence to do so. If you're not asserting yourself then you're simply not getting the most out of life. Asserting yourself requires you to say what and how you feel and put those comments out there without using anger as a tool. Inner strength is a powerful factor in having an assertive mindset and sometimes being insistent requires us to find strength that we never thought we had.

Everyone has amazing inner strength and courage they just have to harness it don’t spend another minute of your life looking at those people who are assertive and get what they want, because they have the confidence to make their voice heard. Life is too short to be a shrinking violet and have your voice in the shadows.

When you start to become more assertive, promise yourself to let go of the guilt. You are not a bad person for standing up for yourself, your boundaries, and your rights as a human being.

If guilt starts creeping in, remember that you did something positive for yourself. If there are consequences for your assertive behavior, such as loss of a friend, remember that you gained your self-respect. It is up to you what is more important.

Remember that once you start becoming more assertive with others without feeling guilty, that it will be easier to practice this behavior more frequently and in many areas of your life.

Get out there and voice your opinions, say what you mean and make yourself heard. It is very important that, no matter what happens, you keep your feeling of self worth and value. We have to learn to be our own best friends because we fall too easily into the trap of being our own worst enemies..
Destiny is not a matter of chance; it's a matter of choice. It is not a thing to be waited for; it is a thing to be achieved.

Wishing you sunshine, love and laughter. Not just today, but all the days after xx

“Be Who You Are and Say What You Feel Because Those Who Mind Don't Matter and Those Who Matter Don't Mind.”

Fred Said:

Geometry help!?! (easy)?

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These are simple questions. Please take the time to actually try them instead of asking others to help you.

Agnes Said:

Not really comfortable with new barn.?

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You're in college and you're letting an 11 year old get to you? Seriously? Treat her like the insignificant brat that she is and just do your own thing.

Jessica Said:

Teaching private lessons to 6th grade beginners?

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Beginners really should have the very best teachers so they can avoid a lifetime of bad habits, which take a lot of time and money to break later.

I realize your school district is trying to economize, but this is really not a good idea. I don't think it will look good on a college application either, since it's a job for which you are really not qualified. Your application will look better if you create a small group with friends and then play free performances for senior centers and hospitals.

Also, the red ring on your lips is an indication of weak technique. Check out videos of Wynton Marsalis and other top brass players to see what I mean.

Be happy. Play well. Best wishes.

Joel Said:

I don't know what to do, advice needed?

We Answered:

First of all you need to let up on yourself. Stop starving yourself and start eating healthier. It will make you look and feel better. I know you are sad about your friend, but we all have our problems and it sounds like you need to be concentrating on your own... You sound like a well-rounded teenager to me, if you are being asked out, go. Let people into your world. Let someone care. I believe you could use that.

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